on: approaching relationships "like a man"

i've tried it.

my friends have watched in amazement as i approached a potentially dramatic situation "like a guy" would.








it doesn't work.

i'm not sure why it doesn't work.

the other day i ran into someone i went on one date with. before we could go on a second date, he disappeared into thin air (see my september entries).

the girl in me wanted to say

"where have you beeeeeen?" and maybe attempt to tell him off.

instead, i acted all cool like i wasn't bothered by the fact that he promised another date and then didnt' deliver.

i thought this would give me the upper hand, maybe get him a little nervous because he can't believe i'm acting so calm.

he acted just as cool as if nothing happened. it infuriated me. he had the audacity not even to act guilty!

and i'll tell you how i know this doesn't work: i can't stop thinking about him.

????

this wasn't how this was supposed to go!

the real issue is: women and men are wired differently; whether we want to admit that or not. so we approach relationships much differently as well. so really, when we think we're acting like a guy---we're really acting the way we normally act because we don't know any other way.

either that, or we're trying to front and failing miserably.

i think we do it because we think it'll trip the man up. we think he's "too stupid" to recognize the difference. but....he knows. that's why he hits us right back with it. game recognize game.

and right now....i'm losing.